This fabricated thinking is ripe material for gossip and the victim and rescuer then continue to 'radiate' or 'project' their dreamed up hurts (now venom) onto other people and it spreads like wildfire to any ear that is open to a breeding ground in the minds of the hearers.  They then add their own stuff and pass on this gossip and misinformation to anyone that will listen and in a very short time there is a whole group of people who have a very loud opinion 'THAT LEADER MUST GO!'

     OK, so far we have seen the 'victim' and the 'rescuer' at work.  An interesting thing is that very often the dynamics are even more complicated.  Depending who is the speaker and listener, depends of someone is a victim or rescuer.  A person can be both victim or rescuer, depending on who is the audience.  The original rescuer suddenly becomes a victim themselves!
     The next dynamic is that the 'the knight in shining armour' is called in.  This person is a denominational person, apostle, bishop, senior manager, the boss etc.  If this person has the right training, is mature enough, and has Godly wisdom (very different from worldly wisdom), they will quickly see what is happening and will tackle the real issue. The 'supposed' victim and rescuer mindsets in these naughty people.

Unfortunately for various reasons this rarely happens:-
1. Only a few people in authority have the training or are equipped to deal with these things.
2. Often the apostles have the same internal issues as victims and rescuers do!
3. There is a dynamic that the first story heard is the one believed, and so the original 'victim' is heard and believed at face value, the group back this up as factual, and the apostle is duped into a false belief also.
4. Sometimes there is no willingness to dig into the real issues, it is easier to get rid on the one leader and to keep the group happy than to risk more trouble than they want to handle.  This is a sure way of having issues perpetuate themselves in the future!  History is bound to repeat itself!  The victims and rescuers become more entrenched because they think they were right in what they did and 'won'!!!
5. Because knights and the like are often busy, stressed and under financial constraints from their denomination / company (the time to face the real issues would cost too much) they take, what they think, is the easiest option.

      So, the knight / apostle bows to the pressure, and collaborates with the wrong people and the original leader is as good as history!  The action of this 'apostle',  in effect, is like throwing petrol on a fire and the whole thing blows apart for the original leader, who is by now reeling.

      This all happens because of one emotionally unbalanced person who never grew out of a childhood habit of 'playing the victim'.  How these people ever get into leadership positions is amazing in itself!   They have become professional victims, and are very good at playing this game!

      A childish mindset does not get it's own way they go into a self pity mindset, 'I've been hurt' mode.  They are not only being dishonest with themselves, they are driving themselves into an unbalanced emotional and mental future.  They are not able to be honest with themselves, are blame shifters and are unable to accept responsibility for their own thoughts, words and actions.  They are never wrong!!!  (Narcissistic)  They easily gossip 'confidential' information radiate out dishonest loaded statements in the hope to sway and recruit other peoples minds to their own way of thinking.  They are insecure and often are desperate for people to like them.  This is why they get people to side with them and they are absolutely allergic to any form of correction.  They surround themselves with other weak minded people, because they are less likely to challenge them or try to correct them.  If they do, they are soon history.  Living them  is hard!  They want to destroy those who oppose them to prove themselves right.  It is their self means of self-preservation.  Being honest with themselves in these matters is absolutely unbearable.
     If you are around a victim, you will always be walking on very thin ice!
     People express anger in two main ways.  One is to blow up and the other is to hold it in.  Inner anger if often worse as it prompts revengeful thinking, resentment and the like.  'Supposed' hurts and misdeeds are not forgotten, but fester along with ways to seek revenge.  You will be punished at some stage, in some way and when the opportunity is right.
     A victim has little genuine love or compassion.  The focus is on themselves.  They are quick to have many reasons why 'you have got yourself' in to such-and-such a mess.  Victims have not grown up and do not take responsibility for their own actions or words, and are nearly impossible to confront.  They are extremely sensitive and people treat them with much respect, as to cross them brings on immediate or delayed retaliation - again, inner seething that festers until the opportunity to get revenge arises.  Victims are cowards, and they use other people to protect them (rescuers) and do their dirty work for them.  They often keep very quiet in meetings and use other rescuers to protect and guard them.
      You do not want a victim on your leadership team!  Because they are good at getting other people to side with them and see their point of view, victims often do rise to leadership because few people have the courage to confront them, and deny them 'their right to power'.  Loosing control is a big problem to them, and seen as ultimate failure.  Their way is best and it is often hard for them to explore other possibilities in their minds - this is why they control others.  These others are often of weak character - they are the ones who are easiest controlled, and of least threat--they conform!
     One victim can sabotage relationships, a club, or church rather than face their own deep insecurity issues.  There is a hyper-sensitiveness to being corrected, found to be wrong, feeling belittled when they are not, and taking offence when none was meant.  They will blame shift and never see that the issue is within themselves.  Truth is not on the agenda of a victim.

      Victims and Rescuers feed on each other to satisfy their emotional needs.  They become co-dependant upon each other, soul-mates feeding on the shared bruises.  Rescuers step in and rescue victims, when the victim should be facing a situation by themselves.  When they side with a victim they 'feel in themselves' the false radiated hurt of the victim and step in to save them.  They cannot bear to see others hurting (valid or invalid hurt). They are often 'wise in their own sight' and can clearly step in with advise as they have 'had the same experience' and 'know all about it'.  They readily step in to defend the victim from the supposed bully while the victim stays very quiet.  Between them they become one over-functioning mind, a breeding ground for hate, malice, and most of the other 'fruits of the flesh' mentioned in the Bible. (There is no fruit of the Holy Spirit going on here - you see there is nothing going on here that is holy...)
      In some cases there can be something like a chain, where a victim protected by rescuers is also rescuing another victim!
      People like this are unable to see any truth in the situation once the fire is burning, and are un-correctable.  As time goes on with a 'situation' the deeper things get and the more is the need to avoid any truth coming out and they have to 'win'.  Failure (to admit the truth) would be fatal, exposure unbearable.  They fully convince their minds of the 'facts', but they are living in a pretend world of perception and far away from the world of reality.  When they get 'hurt' (remember, it is all self-inflicted) it takes them years to get over it, if ever, as they leap frog from one situation to another.  Because they are not living in reality, their world is often a painful place.  Many of their relationships are a set of manoeuvres to either avoid going into the pain zone, or to plunge into a pain zone to be surrounded by a group of sympathisers!
      So, no matter how fair the reality of the real situation.  No matter what the cost to the original leader and family.  No matter where the justice lies. No regard for contracts of employment.  No matter for Christian values or morality, the leader is a goner at any cost.  The leader will loose reputation, career, and sometimes their marriage cracks up and often their mental and emotional health too.  Because they are seen by all as the cause, perpetrator, monster and completely in the wrong - very few victims or rescuers care.  Just as truth is not on the agenda, neither is love--only self-survival.
      Unless...  For much of the initial time that the trouble is going on, everything is kept a secret.  The original leader feels obliged to not broadcast what is going on.  They try to keep the situation quiet.  The victim(s) and rescuer(s) are however busy spreading their venom and distension (but of course will always fervently deny this).  If all goes well the leader will resign, disappear and keep quiet.  If he does then everything is covered up and kept 'secret' (remember the original issue was so very minor that if the truth got out it would be very embarrassing) and everyone moves on, hopefully.
      Sound about right?  Wrong.  The issues are still there because the issues are not situations, but mindsets - spirits.  By not facing the real issue, these mindsets perpetuate and in time history repeats itself, over and over and over again.  The victim thinks that they have won, are justified in their thinking, and live again day by day until another 'monster' comes along to 'persecute them'!
      If the leader does not resign and quietly and conveniently disappear (the sooner the better for the victim and rescuers! - the truth might come out - and here it is folks!).  What happens is the wider body of the church / club get to hear of either the injustice, or the facts, or the gossip and they all form sides.  Very few really know what is really going on, but they take a side and in time there is a split.
      In documenting these things, please believe me, I am in no way trying to hurt anyone.  The intention is to reveal truth, in love, because as Jesus said, it is the truth that sets us free.  Very often the truth is very painful, and this is why it is avoided.
      It is far better to face up to it, learn, change and move forward in life with better relationships where honesty and truth are forefront.  It is very liberating indeed as there is no need to hide any longer…  This … is good mental and emotional health...